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Sep. 11th, 2013 10:06 pmI'm on this forum and posted asking other parents for tips/info on travelling by air with an infant, just to see if there was some better advice than most articles seem to post.
Nope. Got the requisite "bring earplugs for your seatmates around you!" and one person who flipped their gourd over Stirling traveling as a lap-passenger, as in, not in his own seat in a car seat. "dangerous!" claimed this woman, "should be illegal!"
Because during the slightest turbulence, the baby will get dropped. Why, 60 people a year are injured in turbulence issues. Yeah. Of the millions who fly every year, on the millions of flights. Right. Slow it down, Ma'am. We have a higher risk in the taxi on the way TO the airport, than the flight itself. ( no lie, I've nearly gotten into car wrecks going to the airport more often than I've had severe turbulence)
The flight from TO to Calgary isn't especially prone to turbulence, not like the Vancouver to Calgary run going over the rockies. I'm not a newbie flier, and under 2's can travel legally as a lap child for free and that's what we're doing.
Another friend was telling me how you're "not allowed" to swaddle a baby past 6 weeks, and they can't co sleep but they can't be in a different room. My thought? do you staple the bugger to the wall? Not allowed what? Who's to know? Laughably, all of Stirling's baby gear is completely covered in "warnings may cause DEATH!", all over the co sleeper, the crib, the car seat, the stroller.
Its a wonder any of us ever survive, I suppose. Its not that I'm reckless as a parent but I think this panic-and-rules parenting stuff needs to die in a fire of its own making. I don't want to have anything happen to my kid, but the constant barrage of "warnings!" is tiresome and overkill, in my view.
I knew exactly second hand, one family growing up that lost a child to a preventable accident. With a gun. No one I know suffered damage from their crib, their toys, their blankets.
Is it so much to ask for a rational view of parenting that isn't fretting over every last worry, or one upmanship on vaccines, gluten, sugar, dairy, etc?
But then, I guess my child is doomed, because I vaccinate, and it wasn't "NATURAL" and we don't breastfeed. I'll be lucky if he graduates high school without an arson record according to all the racket on parenting out there.
Whatever. I'll save my stress and worry for real issues, not imagined ones.
( This mentality is why I'll probably get shunned from ALLLLLLL parenting groups should I choose to join one locally. I can't be arsed to get worried about things. Frankly, I'd describe my parenting style as "somewhat lazyass", Stirling is fed, loved, clean clothes and bathed, and played with. He lacks for nothing. Why make the job harder fretting over every last thing? I'd rather just not stress unless we need to, and enjoy watching Stirling interact with the world. Of course, we weren't ALLOWED to take him out at 5 weeks either.
is there some kind of master rules list that I wasn't aware of? if so, don't tell me.:D
Nope. Got the requisite "bring earplugs for your seatmates around you!" and one person who flipped their gourd over Stirling traveling as a lap-passenger, as in, not in his own seat in a car seat. "dangerous!" claimed this woman, "should be illegal!"
Because during the slightest turbulence, the baby will get dropped. Why, 60 people a year are injured in turbulence issues. Yeah. Of the millions who fly every year, on the millions of flights. Right. Slow it down, Ma'am. We have a higher risk in the taxi on the way TO the airport, than the flight itself. ( no lie, I've nearly gotten into car wrecks going to the airport more often than I've had severe turbulence)
The flight from TO to Calgary isn't especially prone to turbulence, not like the Vancouver to Calgary run going over the rockies. I'm not a newbie flier, and under 2's can travel legally as a lap child for free and that's what we're doing.
Another friend was telling me how you're "not allowed" to swaddle a baby past 6 weeks, and they can't co sleep but they can't be in a different room. My thought? do you staple the bugger to the wall? Not allowed what? Who's to know? Laughably, all of Stirling's baby gear is completely covered in "warnings may cause DEATH!", all over the co sleeper, the crib, the car seat, the stroller.
Its a wonder any of us ever survive, I suppose. Its not that I'm reckless as a parent but I think this panic-and-rules parenting stuff needs to die in a fire of its own making. I don't want to have anything happen to my kid, but the constant barrage of "warnings!" is tiresome and overkill, in my view.
I knew exactly second hand, one family growing up that lost a child to a preventable accident. With a gun. No one I know suffered damage from their crib, their toys, their blankets.
Is it so much to ask for a rational view of parenting that isn't fretting over every last worry, or one upmanship on vaccines, gluten, sugar, dairy, etc?
But then, I guess my child is doomed, because I vaccinate, and it wasn't "NATURAL" and we don't breastfeed. I'll be lucky if he graduates high school without an arson record according to all the racket on parenting out there.
Whatever. I'll save my stress and worry for real issues, not imagined ones.
( This mentality is why I'll probably get shunned from ALLLLLLL parenting groups should I choose to join one locally. I can't be arsed to get worried about things. Frankly, I'd describe my parenting style as "somewhat lazyass", Stirling is fed, loved, clean clothes and bathed, and played with. He lacks for nothing. Why make the job harder fretting over every last thing? I'd rather just not stress unless we need to, and enjoy watching Stirling interact with the world. Of course, we weren't ALLOWED to take him out at 5 weeks either.
is there some kind of master rules list that I wasn't aware of? if so, don't tell me.:D
