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So like a fucking moron, I go to breakfast and Dramaboy of yore is with us. how this came to be I don't know or care. i play cordial, and he BLATHERS AND BLATHERS AND BLATHERS like fuck dude, every last fart of your brain is an astounding wonder, to you.

We veer into what happened when we broke off the friendship and he whines "you hurt my feeeewings" well, dude, YOU KEEP calling in midday when people are at work. It was a courtesy that I answered. And you're upset that I didn't want your space brained "hiiiiii". "But! I lose track of tiiiiime." well how is that MY problem?

He's unemployed. AGAIN. He drops all this hippy dipshit "you need to manage stress. you need to be nicer." No. I don't need to "tolerate people's drama." fuck off.

He keeps lecturing me how its UNHEALLLLLLTHY to be so anti drama forthright blah blah. I look at him and go "ok, fuck off with your self help bullshit."

And leave him there. OF COURSE R STANDS THERE AND SAYS NOTHING IN MY FUCKING SUPPORT. FUCCCK.

Why am I being told to tolerate this fucktard's bullshit? why is it on MY head to make nice? He's not changed one goddamn iota except to waft around and pretend he's some fucking enlightened guru.

So yeah. I said "Ask r how intense the last yr's been." R: silence. Thanks for the backup. Much appreesh, lad. ANY FUCKING TIME NOW

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So for the running tally:
Drama boy has:
1. smashed a favored item from Amsterdam in a drunken clumsy haze.
2.farted and stunk up my apartment when staying with us.
3. had me retrieve him drunk at 3 am from the lobby.
4.showed up unnanounced insisting I fix his comforter.
5.asked we take care of his cat on trips, but then calls us at 4 am from HELSINKI
6.when asked not to have his personal drama in stereo, ignores my wishes to NOT be the sounding board on two sides.
7. Touched and talked to my belly when I was pregnant and ignored ALL request to stop, till I hit him
8. Called me 2-3 times a day "to taaaallk" because he can't be alone for a moment.
9. insulted my cooking.
10.Insulted my relationship with R, "I don't know why he's with you he could do better"
11.still butthurt that I was brusque on the phone the day he called and I answered, and apparently it's MY fault I answered, but see #8.
12. Today I "talked about halifax SO MUCH." Um, I didn't bring it up at all, R mentioned it and I said "the smitty's is next to weight watchers" and that's ALL I said as he went off on Quebec, again.

Then he tells me I should learn to accept drama better, and I'm "no, I don't." "You'll snap! Its not healthy! you have NO friends you're angry ALL THE TIME."

Um. I was getting pretty angry when he finished with that. I had been nice and cordial up to that point but suddenly I was angry about halifax the whole time? ARE YE FUCKING KIDDING ME?

This is clearly a man who demands from others and gives nothing back ( I think i got a mug and a shelf?) and when people stop bowing to his demands he flips the fuck out on em. more so on women or people he perceives as weak? For a tiny little 5 foot 5 fuck all gay man he's a raging sexist, misogynist entitled shit.

I was tryiing to explain my year of classes was really fucking intense and he just doesn't listen because its the Randy Show ALL THE TIME. Fuck.

I really wish R didn't hang around him, but he knows it and there's fuck all i can do, and R won't say a word in my defense, thanks. (we shall have a talk.)

But "you need to accept bullshit and drama" oh. Why? Whatever for? I'm an adult with a life and friends and hes an agent of chaos and misery and life force sucking crap so whyever do i need that?

He really has issues about women not doing what he wants, he treats me the same way he talked about his mom, and I want to go "great, you really did a bang up job on him."